What the Big Brother 19 – Elena Davies Twitter drama teaches about social experiments
Ultimately, this is the position that recent Big Brother 19 houseguest Elena Davies now finds herself in after it was revealed over the past two days that she has made a series of offensive jokes regarding race, sexuality, rape, and a whole lot more over the years. There’s a pretty lengthy list of some of her comments over at the link here, and they give you a sense of some of what she’s said in the past. Sure, these aren’t the only tweets that she’s made, but these are appalling enough.
Was Elena thinking that some of these comments were funny, and that other people would “get” her sense of humor back when she made them? Sure you can argue that, and you can also say that she’s worked in radio where a certain shock-jock mentality for attention common. Yet, those are all pretty hollow excuses for comments that were inexcusable (even as humor) in 2013, let alone in 2017. She said what she said, and the best thing that she could do it is address it, own it, and move forward. She could easily say that she’s grown from that point in her life and is still trying to improve as a person; yet, she hasn’t.
Unfortunately, there is a cloud all around this Elena situation that exhibits the problems that come with emerging out of a pressure-cooker reality TV environment and what it does both to contestants and fans.
Let’s start here from the contestant angle: Elena went on the show knowing that she would be watched by millions of people and develop a certain degree of fame. Clearly, her actions now show that she wants to focus on that, and she has enough people who love her that it allows her to rationalize her misgivings and make her feel as though she’s “amazing” no matter what she says and does. It probably doesn’t help that America endorsed someone for AFP this season (in Cody) who said some terrible things in the house and then opted against apologizing for them after the fact; it suggests that being offensive is okay. It’s another prime example of this era of division where finding some middle ground isn’t all that easy. Reality TV contestants are given so many venues to fuel their egos that they think they can do little wrong and even when they do, they can just delete the comments, not address them, and more forward … not realizing that this only infuriates more the people who were rooting for them in the first place.
As someone who’s come out of reality TV in the past (luckily before Twitter was really thing), we can attest to it playing games with your head. We were a little lucky that we had some time off of Beauty and the Geek before the show premiered, but even still we remember the awkward experience of having sudden “fans” that empower you to think you don’t need any personal growth.
The other side of this
Let’s look at the fans of the show, the ones who are tweeting #ElenaExposedParty and coming for her hard on social media. These are people who spent all summer invested in her, and some of them feel hurt over what she said. Others may still like her and want to offer support; some may just want attention from her and are tweeting for that reason. Big Brother is a show that creates (at times) a wonderful community, but also unfortunately at times a contentious one. When someone does something unacceptable, an army of people often forms to crucify that person rather than trying to start a meaningful dialogue. While not every person shows a willingness to change (see Cody), others will take responsible for their misgivings if they are mature enough and realize that they did or said things they should not. Fans should try to encourage this more than they should resorting to name-calling.
What the Big Brother community needs, (provided they want to get involved in this whole Elena drama) is outreach to let her know why her Twitter history is not okay without resorting to some of the typical negative tactics (bashing people, unfortunately, has become somewhat of a hobby for people on the internet). Meanwhile, Elena needs to have the capacity to listen rather than just liking tweets in support of her and blocking anyone else.
It’s Big Brother. It’s just a game, and with that, it’s easy to say that everyone should move on. Yet, many people understandably grow close to these people after watching them over the summer, and when someone lets them down after the game it’s a scaled-down version of a player being blindsided in the house. This is life, and a social game out here is infinitely more important than one that lasts 90 or so days. Elena needs to realize that and give back to the people that supported her.
Update: Elena’s apology
You can read what Elena wrote on Twitter this afternoon, one in which she owns up to the “errors of her past.” There are going to be plenty of people out there who question whether this was enough of an apology / if she needed to apologize at all (there always is), but you need to remember this: Growth sometimes happens in stages. Good on her for coming to terms with her past in a public forum; we’ll all know how much she learned from this experience in the weeks and months to come.
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Cap2210
September 29, 2017 @ 10:44 am
OMG, I am sick and tired of everyone being so offended. Just because you are offended, doesn’t make you right. Get over yourselves and your hurt feelings and grow a pair.
Nikki
September 27, 2017 @ 3:56 pm
I’m pretty sure it wasn’t people who were “invested” in her that exposed her – pretty sure it was the sour Paul fans ROFLLL… j/s
plukasiak
September 27, 2017 @ 12:51 pm
The focus should not be on Elena. We all know that there are tons of hateful bigots all over the internet, and now that Elena has been exposed, she should simply be ignored. (you don’t spend 25+ years being a racist scumbag only to apologize when it turns out to be bad for your “brand”).
The real question is what is up with BB casting? Why would Alison CHOOSE to risk another BB15 mess? Why would CBS choose to tolerate this kind of venality/incompetence?
Imagine what would have happened if Elena had gone full Aaryn on the house — and it was at that point that Elena’s racist, homophobic, xenophobic Twitter history was made public. Do Les Moonves and Julie Chen think its good for CBS and themselves to be associated with this kind of thing? Do they really want the focus to be on CBS’s explotation of hatred and bigotry in order to draw big audiences?
Someone Somewhere
September 27, 2017 @ 3:35 pm
It’s all about the ratings. They don’t care what is in someone’s past as long as they get ratings
Look at the edits a lot of them get over the years. The house guests are often painted so angelic when on the feeds they were slimy hateful bigots, or worse. This year Alex suggested Kevin might be a pedophile (as well as other cruel comments) and Jason out and out said he’d r@pe Kevin’s wife while his daughter’s watched (he made similar comments about others as well). Don’t think either of those things made it to the show and, unless you read about them or saw them on the feeds, most people will never know about them and only see the “sweet” edits both got.
Or how about Corey last year with his homophobic twitter comments from his past, and his live feed comments about burning a goat alive? Those surely were never mentioned on the show. Tons and tons of these types of things every season.
The only time people take notice outside of online and the feeds is when it becomes extreme such as season 15 with the massive amounts or racism. They had no choice but to talk about Aaryn after that.
Plus, unless it’s completely ON the show, and it’s to a degree where it becomes like season 15, CBS and Julie and Les (and anyone associated with the show) can just plead ignorance to things that resurface from a house guest’s past.
It’s sad an pathetic how the show is cast now. I agree completely with you, but, sadly, I doubt it will change as long as they get ratings.
I also agree: people don’t change after 25 years of being a bigot. Aaryn’s apology (or anyone else’s on the show) is simply to cover their brand and potential for making money. Nothing more.
Vicki Bragelman
September 27, 2017 @ 1:23 am
I’m just wondering who among us would be able to have everything we ever said or did placed under a magnifying glass and be able to come out without a mark. I know I wouldn’t. In fact, I’m not sure there is such a thing as a perfect person. Unless you are, knock it the hell off.
Ev Vykin
September 27, 2017 @ 1:03 am
Very well written and said!!!
Shelwin
September 26, 2017 @ 11:02 pm
Wow! She’s talking pretty cocky! If you watched BB, you’re probably aware she’s full of herself. We don’t all have to be ‘socially correct’ or have the same opinion, personality or way of expressing yourself. The world has a lot of flavor we should savor. It’s pompass, but who cares? It’s just the opinion of a spoiled little rich girl.
Someone Somewhere
September 27, 2017 @ 3:18 pm
Couldn’t stand her. She treated Mark poorly and was just incredibly crass and vulgar most of the time. And this doesn’t even take into account she never played the game and was just yet another of Paul’s puppets.