Mrs Carter: Alanis wasn’t prepared to become a mother, but is anyone ever really prepared for their first child?
Singer Alanis Morissette received the greatest Christmas gift of all in 2010, when Alanis and her husband Mario “Souleye” Treadway welcomed their first child, Ever Imre, into the family on December 25, but she admits that she wasn’t exactly sure what she was doing at first.
Morissette tried her best to be prepared for the arrival of her son and thought that when her son was born she’d know what to do, but she says that she was shocked at how unprepared she actually was. Alanis said;
“I remain baffled at how little I was prepared for what was to come. I had used, as usual, the I’ll-rise-to-that-occasion-when-I-get-there approach to the post-child-bearing journey. So all my DVD-watching and focus went toward the birth experience itself, and how to prepare myself for that (as though I really could prepare for a Human. Being. Coming. Out. Of. My. Body). Life literally and figuratively moved through me that morning of Dec. 25. Yet another example of life’s unsentimental and ruthless way of shaking me awake to the direct experience of being human. I had no idea the person I’d always dreamed of becoming was being born at the exact same time.”
During pregnancy there is a heavy focus on getting to the day of birth and the birthing process that it can leave many new mothers flailing when their baby actually arrives. Perhaps shifting the focus into being a parent and spending a little less time on the birthing process might help more parents and their children in the long run instead of using the trial and error process.
Photo: Marcello Casal Jr.